Step by step, and day by day, my Lord led me to the appointed day of separation from the only life I had known for forty two years. A life dedicated to serving an earthly master; my husband. A desire to have a Godly marriage and wholesome family. Dreams that most women have because God builds into them the desire to please their husband, nurture their children, and be administrators in their homes.

Through the years I read every book I could find on marriage and relationships. How I longed for the love of my husband. But, when he decided to get a divorce, the only Book that offered true wisdom, comfort, and directions, was God's Holy Word. When friends called to encourge me, all I wanted to hear was, "What does God say?"

I wondered why no other book seemed to be written for Christian women and men who had to let their spouse go. As, God had said, "If the unbeliever wants to leave... let him go." I Corinthians 7:15.

All the books I read were about how God hates divorce and we were given all kinds of suggestions as how to save our husbands. We became burdened down, frustrated, put down, and nearly destroyed, carrying a load that God never meant for us to carry. We were designed to help...not to take the man's responsibility.

Then God sent Ed Cole into my life with a message straight from the throne room... reminding men of their assignment from God...that He holds them responsible for their homes. Ed wrote the book Maximized Manhood, teaching men that Maximized Manhood is synonimous with Christ-likeness.

When a couple is unequally yoked, the tearing apart of that yoke is excruciating. It often represents the separating of the world from the spirit. It is a point of choosing God over the world your husband/wife walked in and tried to get you to walk in.

My desire as I went to court that day, facing the inevitable...was that God somehow be glorified. "That according as it is written, 'HE THAT GLORIETH, LET HIM GLORY IN THE LORD.'" I Corinthians 1:31.

And, as I stood before the judge, my earthly husband standing on my right, just as he had at our wedding before God, an earthly judge pronounced us divorced. Uncontrolled sobs rose up from deep inside of me, and unrestrained tears washed my face. The hand of my earthly lawyer was on my right shoulder...but surely it was the hand of God, in compassion, wisdom, and love...helping me separate from my world of so much pain...into the promise of a new life with Him.

What I couldn't do for myself...my loving Father did for me. He broke my yoke to the world.